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Communicating in a Relationship


Communication is so important in a relationship. I’ve been with my husband for 20 years and still have to work to keep open lines of communication everyday.
If you can’t communicate with your spouse or significant other, you’ll never resolve any issues. I’ve found over the years that this just leads to fights over little issues when you’re really fighting over something much bigger and deeper.
In a relationship there’s no room for arrogance, ego, pride, or entitlement. If you can’t find a way to talk to your partner in a way that they can understand then let’s face it, you’re relationship will not make it through the test of time.
I’ve found one way to get my thoughts together in a non confrontational way is to write a letter to my husband. This may sound silly to most people but it accomplishes so much:
1. Express myself fully and giving myself time to think carefully about what I want to say and how I want to say it.
2. Allows my husband to take in my thoughts/feelings in a non confrontational environment
3. Gives my husband time to process what I’m REALLY trying to say to him
4. After he has had time to absorb and think about what I’ve written, it opens the door up the door for an honest and heartfelt conversation about our feelings.
If you do this and you are honest with yourself and your spouse AND take away any ego, pride, arrogance, and feelings of entitlement you may have, this is a great tool to communicate with a partner when all other methods have failed.